Acceptance of self and others is living in the flow of natures natural intelligence.

One of the surest paths toward feelings of inadequacy and an inability to move forward in life is to set unrealistic goals for myself. That is, to have standards that represent “getting there” that are so high that I always fall short. More likely, the effect of these overly high standards will be to keep me from ever beginning because the point of arrival looks too far away, and I cannot imagine how to find and take all of the intermediate steps. Today I will be realistic. I know that
there is no such thing as perfect, so why should I worry about getting there? There is the here and now, and when I get there, it will be that day’s here and now. I recognize that perfection is only an illusion, and I will learn to take daily pleasure and fulfillment from the process.
I live in today.
We have trained them (men) to think of the Future as a promised land which favored heroes attain – not as something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.
C. S. Lewis